marriage is a papa murphy's pizza















In the 3 weeks that our blog sat dormant, we've had plenty to write about—most importantly, our anniversary. We've been married for 730+ days, which simultaneously seems like no time at all and our whole lives.

Time does weird stuff. I've tried to reflect on the previous year, to bring images and moments together into some sort of conclusive statement about what the 2nd year of marriage is like. But I can only think of rather current moments. Most of them involve food. I don't know if I should go with food as a 2nd-year-of-marriage metaphor or not.

Here are a few happy, recent, marriage-defining moments that stand out in my mind (which should not stand in for a mushier and more endearing post, but will anyway):

  • My husband has boosted Papa Murphy's profits this quarter because he buys me their gourmet chicken garlic pizza nearly once a week. He hopes not to maintain this habit. But for now, he values the pizza for its unique property of remaining in my queasy tummy after eating.
  • He told me to buy the maternity dress of my dreams, even though it was full price (which I am opposed to) and I haven't started sporting a poochy tummy yet.
  • When our car was in the shop, he walked to the grocery store to buy milk, which I just HAD to have. And when I insisted on going with him, he stopped to hug me for ages when I cried on the side of the road, because I imagined that our children might like him more and think I was the boring, ugly parent of the pair. What a trip to the store THAT was.
Another anniversary from now, some of our most important moments these days (preparing for our last semester of school, hearing our baby's heartbeat at the midwife's office, picking out names, looking for real-person jobs) won't be quite so present, and we'll be on to different projects and seasons of life.

Something tells me that, while the scenery might change and some additional children will pop in for a visit, we'll still do what we always do: read lots of books, work on projects, spend time together. He'll consistently take out the garbage and water the plants. I'll be as erratic as ever with laundry and vacuuming (though I'll continue to claim that keeping up dependably on both are important to me).

And we'll eat. Maybe I'll cook up something better for us than Papa Murphy's.

13 comments:

janel said...

Can I hire you to write up my life story in such a sweet way as you just summed up the last 730 days? You are a hilarious pregnant woman. And I'll toast you with some garlic chicken pizza.

Crystal said...

GRIN :) I love this post. So so so so cute. Who is your midwife? I loved my midwife in Utah ::sigh::

Genevieve Beck said...

Love this! Congrats on your anniversary! I loved the trip to the store.

Just Some Dude said...

So here's what you're going to do to have a life uninterrupted by crying fits: if the baby cries, you'll read whatever it is your reading aloud instead of to yourself. Your voice will soothe the baby. If not, you'll just set up the baby swing in front of the TV and turn on one of the Friday the 13th movies, so that the poor, precious mind is so disturbed by what he/she sees that he/she won't be able to make a noise. It's just an idea, you can take it or leave it. :)

David/Dad/Doc said...

It seems like such a short time ago that you were married and yet it seems like Christopher has always been a part of our family.

Mom's food was Arby's Jr roast beef sandwiches while you were giving her the queasy tummy.

And Christopher, good move on the dress!

Annie said...

i think that pizza sounds much better than the stuff i craved...sweetened condensed milk and ground beef with ketchup and worchestershire sauce on it. not together...by themselves. that doesn't really make it any less weird/unhealthy. i'm so happy for you guys! there should be more marriage and families like yours.

Jenny said...

Keep the pregnancy comments, and freak out moments, coming! I love it. Women are crazy when pregnant, but that keeps life fun! I must say ---DON'T Cook! You will get through the first trimester much better if you just eat, and are away when any cooking is taking place.

You're doing a midwife?!?!? That's awesome! I want to, but that would require a homebirth, which I'm nervous about, and opposed to. I don't get pampered as much! I don't get 4 days of meals (2 from hospital, 2 from Relief Society), just 2.

I act weird when I'm pregnant, I tend to be antisocial, so I didn't want to impose or pressure you into seeing us when we were there. We'll see you next time though. Hopefully you'll be feeling better, albeit big and fat, at Christmastime!

faith said...

congratulations on the anniversary! and i'm glad you found something that will stay down. that's wonderful!
you should check out "hypnobirthing: the mongan method." i read it before each of the last two were born. didn't do the method, but i'm grateful i read it. i think it's a really good read.

Emily Horrocks said...

I also read the Hypnobirthing book and really believe in it. I'm too anxious a person to actually calm down in the event of a birth and I'm all about the epidural. ;)

I'm excited for the two of you being happily married after ALL this time! But what's more exciting is just all the great things to look forward to!

Bryson and Tara said...

Oh, I miss you, Kathy! Thanks for all your great and comical thoughts. Hope you had a wonderful anniversary. I am so thrilled for you and this exciting adventure you and Christopher are embarking on. I got your voicemail today. I'll try to call you back soon!

Raimo and Jessica Laitinen said...

aww cute post. i love love

Nicholas James West said...

Don't worry. Eventually your kids will hate both of you.

Megan said...

Happy two years! You guys are so great! I love reading about how you're feeling during the pregnancy. It reminds me that all my random, seemingly-unreasonable crying and worrying really is normal under those circumstances! Glad you're staring to feel semi-better! Hopefully it will just improve more and more!